5 mantras that always work for my children – My Valentine
Valentine’s Day may have a different meaning for everyone but the bonding is the same. It expresses the love between two people. But I, as a mother, have felt this deep love with my children, too. It is not that my love for my man has faded after being a mother. But it has all the more multiplied my reason to love him. There are no definite mantras to define the endless love of a mother and her children. Each new day shows new colours of love in the simple things we do together.
The bond of love
The child has different gestures to show that he/she care. Like the way a mother has an indefinite love for her children. No child is much closer or a favourite out of the two. In fact, some habits resemble the mother and thus she feels proud. But no habit makes her a referee. Each child is dear to her in spite of all the good and bad habits. The exact way God loves all his children on earth. Mother is another name for Him on earth.
Parenting mantras that always work
Every parenting is different and no two children are the same. As a mother of two, I always end up being a referee. In many cases, I am accused of being on the other side. And every mother has a mantra to tackle this situation. Some situations are tricky but some hacks work wonders
- Always give your child your undivided attention. Finish off your mobile and laptop work before you sit with your child to play or teach. As a blogger, 85% of my work is done on mobile and the rest on the laptop. It’s almost all day work but I make it a point to take a break when I am with my children.
- When I am out with my friends or with my husband and kids at home, I bring something for them, something as small as a pen or eraser. It makes them happy and that smile makes my day.
- When they fight over silly things, there is no point in shouting. I yell but they become deaf. So now, I just leave them and become deaf. They start it, end it and the next minute they start playing again.
- Many times, kids behave badly. They talk loudly or answer you back. When I don’t like their behaviour, I stop talking to them. This keeps me sane and they know that they are doing something wrong. They know they have to improve.
- Silence has supreme power. There is nothing better than being quiet when things are not going your way. It keeps you in control and your thinking ability is doubled.
What’s your mantra of sane parenting?
Silence is indeed powerful and has the effect that anger does not. And, I like the idea of gifting whenever you come back from trip without kids.
Your pointers make sense, Geethica. Especially, not to shout when they are fighting, exhausts us and doesn’t serve the purpose too. Also the point where you said if they talk back stop talking to them and make them realise what they did was wrong.
Oh the virtue of silence. Extremely effective but difficult to practice. Need to internalize this virtue for a sane parenthood.
This is so interesting. I have never tried the silence strategy but it seems like a good one. Will try it now!