Tips to achieve relationship goals by Vasantha Vivek

The topic of achieving relationship goals is much more popular than I thought.  When I started this series, I was not aware that it would stretch across the month and jump into another month. Well, it is all your love that shows on my blog through my writing. The interviews are still on and today’s guest on my blog is dear Vasantha. Let’s check out relationship goals by Vasantha.

Introduce yourself in a few lines. What is your relationship status?

I am Vasantha Vivek. A Computer Professor turned into a blogger. Also, I am a happy woman, daughter, sister, wife, mother, teacher, friend, mentor, seeker, and lover. Happily married

Do you have kids?

Yes, only one naughty and curious teen son.

There’s always a change in the definition of love at every stage of life. What change did you feel after your kid/kids was/were born?

Yes, I’m a strong believer of love. Love has many impacts on me. It has turned me into a confident, caring, understanding, responsible and self-made woman. Life after my son was turbulent in the early stages. I was not able to manage my full-time job, my part-time post-graduation, household chores and personal relationship issues. That was the time when we, my hubby and I, had the most number of fights. But all these happened only for some time. And once I realised my mistake and learnt the art of mindfulness, no regrets for what had happened. Now I feel proud to call myself a true lover and a mindful mom.

Do you live in a joint family? If yes, do they help in building a strong relationship between the two of you? If no, do you miss their presence?

We live in a joint family. I have to admit that I didn’t get much help from them. But my hubby and my family supported and loved me a lot. This helped me to overcome all the struggles and hardships I faced as a working mom cum student. Yet, I love my family so much. And I am happy to be in this family since we feel we have gifted our son with loving relations, fun and moral values. I think it’s the best gift one can give to any single child in this modern micro-nuclear family era.

Kids make their parents’ bond stronger. But at times, children become the cause of fights as their teachings differ. What is your safe mantra in such a situation? Explain with an example, if possible.

Three Relationship goals by Vasantha gave us good insights. They are

1. This, too, shall pass.

2. No blaming game.

3. It’s ok to be not ok. Accept and Grow.

Respect for your partner is the most important aspect of a successful relationship. Still, at some point in an argument, your ego comes in between and things become worse. How do you tackle such a situation and make your life peaceful once again?

Research says marriage between two scorpions is adventurous. And I would say it’s adventurous and dangerous, too. So, as we two are scorpions, we tend to argue for many silly and many big reasons. This had a bad impact on our relationship. But, with the support of friends, well-wishers and professional counselling, we understood our destiny and the purpose of our life. Stay calm and let it go is the way we tackle difficult situations and bring back happiness and peace into our family.

Everyone loves surprises. There’s always an excitement involved. But when you are together for over a decade, you know him/her inside out. How do you still manage to surprise your partner?

I am a sensitive, creative and very expressive person. Whereas my hubby is a shy, less spoken and calm guy. So all the surprises were only from me. The ” Romantic Treasure Hunt “, which I played with him during one of his birthdays, was my most cherished memory. Hope he had also enjoyed it. Today, no words, no gifts or no surprises are needed for us.

From your experience of married life with kids, please share some motivating tips to make your relationship successful.  What is your ultimate goal in a relationship?

Being married for 16 years, our ultimate goal in a relationship is to spread happiness, help others and be in good company always.

Our tips for improving your relationship quotient

1. Unconditional love.

2. Trust.

3. Support and encourage.

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Thanks a lot, Vasantha, for being on board and carrying on the series successfully. I could relate to many of the answers and am sure my readers would also be.

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Stay tuned for some more insights from different people.