What it takes to be a superwoman with extra wings. Know it all here
I usually praise how a particular superwoman affects my life and motivates me to be a better human being. The list is long including my mom, my Bharatnatyam guru and all ladies around me. Even the ones who may not like me much, I have started taking them as a challenge to ignore and move on. So after taking them all in stride, I think about my superpowers and what it takes to be a superwoman with extra wings because nobody else will do it.
The other day, we were discussing on a team call about which women should we praise this International Women’s Day when I declared that this time I want to praise myself. It may not sound like apne mu miya mittu banana but about all the struggles I fought and reached at a point where I can say I am content. The struggles never end but your power to overcome is the solution that the world must know.
Becoming a superwoman with extra wings
It does take courage to start this journey and every woman is a bundle of superpowers she is not aware of. You just need to observe your habits. Mostly, it’s people around you who highlight your qualities and you realize how precious you are to the world.
Trust me, more than half of the world will stop working if we women pause from our responsibilities!
Let’s take a tour of my powers
It’s a beauty to go back in time and check your progress. Every milestone makes you stronger.

Always a learner
Mom says that education never wastes. If today, I think of my graduation degree and diploma courses I did which are just certificates in my almirah, I may be wrong. According to her, if you learn something, it adds value to your personality for life. At some time in life, they may appear to be helpful in some way. Agreed.
I can prove this right for my love for Bharatanatyam. Early in school, my maternal grandma used to take me to dance classes and I used to crib at it. I wanted to sleep at that time as much as I remember. But I learnt it for 5 years until my guru shifted. Fast forward to the present, when I heard about Bharatanatyam for adults, I instantly got carried away. Today, I am blessed to pursue it again and all thanks to my early learnings, I picked it up easily though I am still building that stamina!
Practising what I want to be makes me a superwoman
One quality that is the backbone of all is the quality of patience. Whichever habit you start for betterment, you need to practice it regularly. Nothing comes easily, you need time to beautify it and that’s how practice makes it a reality.
But in due course, you often lose patience and your habit falls short. But then I remind myself about the ultimate goal and how these are just hurdles to ignore.
Staying firm is not easy
As you grow, you become firm in your choices and realize how happy they make you. Now if the world comes to stop you, you don’t pay heed to any of the reasons. At the start of my career when I searched online writing courses, I joined a writer’s group where someone said: First you should call yourself a writer then the world will follow. I followed it and today I am proud I did because it happened.
Detaching from responsibilities
Responsibilities will never end as long as you are alive. They will increase as you grow but learn to detach from things you have mastered. I have outgrown many household responsibilities and delegated them to others. It’s not that I don’t cook anymore or do laundry but these duties are not a burden on me anymore.
I have stopped putting emotions into these realities. When you know you have to perform particular tasks, just start without thinking whether they’ll make you happy or sad. Doing so will only delay your timelines. In the meantime, I target to finish my official work, spend time with kids and take up updates on other things.
This is how I learnt the art of managing things and getting results on time.
Using thoughts to create reality
But every day is not yours, things go wrong and you feel bad. Sometimes, this is dragged to weeks and months when your desired results are not showing even after your hard work.
The solution to this problem is never to stop working. I have experienced and I can confidently say that it’s always better to work than sitting idle and crying about all wrong things happening around. Instead, it’s better to keep imagining the future the way you want. Train your subconscious mind to keep thinking positively and make it a reality.
Here, patience and belief in your brain power are the key. It’s difficult but it happens for sure. I can vouch for it.
Thinking before speaking
Thinking before you react is the best way to keep away from anger. When I am quiet and don’t react instantly, I feel like a superwoman. Later I think, I have won so many battles by just being a spectator to situations where I was not required to say a word. It’s an unnecessary urge to poke into everything around us.
Have you ever tried silence as your power tool?
Ultimate power comes with age and financial independence
I always wanted to be financially independent and I have worked for it to have it my way. I am grateful to God for every good thing that happens on time and even for bad things highlighting areas of improvement.
After a certain age like when I turned 30, I changed my way of looking at things. I matured to pick things that I liked and not which were given to me. I became confident to say no to things I didn’t want. Of course, this didn’t make me rude. I worked on my politeness constantly to show that I am keeping my point of view for certain things and not intending to hurt others. It is their problem if they perceive it that way.
Superwoman to say I am content with what little I have
It requires you to be a superwoman to say that I am content with life and don’t crave things. This requires patience and His blessings. It’s a blessing to acknowledge that I am at that stage.
Confidence to say I am a blogger
Last but not least, I am proud to admit that I am a blogger and earn my living through blogging. Every bit you do comes with hard work. What you see today has not come in a few months or weeks but in 18 years of marriage and 7.5 years of blogging.
I hope to keep adding powers to myself and trend being a superwoman. What qualities do you admire in yourself?
This post is a part of Her Journey Blog Hop hosted by Manali Desai and Sukaina Majeed
Your post reminded me of the importance of self-love and acceptance. It also told me how I haven’t done something like this for myself and how far I’ve come.
A big pat on your back and a hug from my side for being your awesome self, Geethica
So proud of you that you picked yourself and your attributes to praise this Women’s Day. It is important to know and understand yourself as also to celebrate yourself. All the points you share are very important. Thanks!
It takes a whole lot of connection with oneself, experiences and introspection to know what u really want from life. I am glad that u have found that Geethica… hope you continue to shine n more power to you. Hmmm… to answer your question, It may sound like I am blowing my own trumpet but there r a whole lot of qualities that I admire in myself, some r my strength, sense of responsiblilty n resilience. I look for the good in people rather than the bad and I like to spread happiness and make a difference in the lives of people in whatever way possible… too much? 🙈
That’s great, Kaveri. And never think of blowing your own trumpet but do so because you actually own those qualities. The qualities that you have nurtured yourself and are proud to count on. Thanks.
You’re definitely a superwoman! I love how you turned the lense towards your achievements and I related so much with that aspect of self love. There were many helpful nuggets in this piece. Also, I really like how supportive your tone is, it just feels like a hand guiding me to eventual fulfilment. I think I’ll come back to this piece when I need a reminder to look at my own superpowers~
Thanks, Careens. That’s so sweet of you keep this post as reminder of self love.
Your post has inspired me to sit down, collect my thoughts and pick out the qualities I admire in myself. Self love comes first, doesn’t it? Thanks for egging me to do this.
Thanks, Janaki. Yes, we need to pat ourselves because nobody else will start it for us
Geethica, your story is a great reflection of self discovery. Quite related with me, bas I am not earning from my writing yet but yes goal is there. I like the way you achieve your superpower one by one and believe in your self. Yes, we have to admire ourselves, give to high five ourselves and cheers to ourselves first. Kudos to your superpower. And many more you will get.
Thanks, Neeta. You will definitely earn through your writing if you continue to think so and work hard towards it.
Lovely post! I’m glad you have delegated household chores. I always believe that they have to be delegated and not done just by one person. For eg. Everyone living in the house needs to clean up after themselves instead of the mother spending her life only cleaning up after everyone.
I agree. In fact, I try to put my husband and kids on different duties so they don’t clash and finish their chores quietly. Thanks.