Can you hate the person you love the most
The simple answer to the question – Can you hate the person you love the most is “No, you can’t” Love is an emotion that happens on its own. You never play hard to love someone, his respect for your dreams makes you fall in love with him again and again. But at the same time, life is not a bed of roses, you have to make it one. Circumstances test your patience and you often ask yourself – is love or hate filling your heart more now?
The language of love
Every couple has a language of love. Some like to express their love physically, others like to show it emotionally while a few like to just enjoy being around their loved ones. I am sharing my language of love for my partner, let’s see if you resonate with any of these.
Taking care of his belongings
This doesn’t mean spoiling his habits or spoon-feeding him. That way he’s independent in most of his ways. It is just my way of arranging breakfast items for him before he makes it on his own or checking if his clothes are in their right places before he wears them.
Over the years, I have seen him preparing things independently if I am not around and that’s his way of expressing that he cares.
Cook the food he loves

In the early years of my marriage, when I started learning new recipes, someone asked me what was new in my cookbook. My simple answer was the dishes he likes. I would stand by my mom-in-law and watch her cook the delicious food which is now transferred to me. Paneer, biryani, kadhi and of course, arhar ki dal are a few common dishes at home.
I shared before also that cooking someone’s special recipes is my way of saying that I care. People may be busy in their world but eating their favourite food instantly brings happiness to their nerves and senses.
When he orders my favourite food or visits my favourite cuisines that’s his way of eating good food together and making delicious memories for my next blog post.
Mark your presence in the same room
We both are quiet and love our personal spaces. We don’t believe that gadgets have eaten up our mutual conversation time. Gadgets have made it possible to sit together in a room and still be busy with your stuff. I like working on my laptop or reading a book while he loves to play or read on his mobile.
Watching a movie or series together on TV or laptop is always a bonus.
Reading and watching genres that he likes

Miracles do happen and love makes it happen quite often. Spending close to 2 decades together, I have started taking an interest in historical monuments and knowing the story behind their existence as he likes. On the contrary, I have seen him taking glimpses of CID episodes I watch on OTT and other thrillers I love to watch.
Habits make you fall in love with someone and at the same time irritate you to the extent that you just want to hate the person and walk out of the relationship. But stop for a moment, pause and ask yourself, will you be happy without him? If he doesn’t irritate you, will you long for those soothing moments together?
Check out an interesting research on the 2 strong emotions – love and hate here.
Love is always in the air, it’s just that you need to smell it over other fragrances.
What are the most loving and irritating habits of your partner that you simply adore?
“This post is a part of Remembering Love Blog Hop hosted by Manali Desai and Sukaina Majeed“
Over a course of time, you will start looking at what the other person enjoy so much in something which you hardly have any interest in. and before you know yourself, you feel a bond developed for it. You may still have no interest in it. But you will keep a lookout for things which your partner likes to do so that you can share his/her hapiness just as a companion.
I believe everyone has their own love language but sometimes you need to love your partner in their love language
Interesting question. I have seen cases where love turned to hate with equal measure. But that’s not what we are talking about here. Sweet post.
Aww. These words are so precious and tender that I felt the respect, understanding, and quiet love in your partnership. It’s amazing how much the small gestures amount to. I’ve always been a believer in actions than words when it comes to care. And I see a lot of those gestures you wrote about in my mum’s actions every day ~ 💗
Love is always in the air, it’s just that you need to smell it over other fragrances.
How beautifully put, Geethica 👏🏻😍
I love how you said you take care of his belongings but not to spoil him or spoon-feed
This is a lovely reminder for the people who feel irritated or feel like they hate someone just because of a few habits.
So sweet of you to say that, Manali. Yes, love teaches you to accept all shades of your partner and be transparent yourself at the same time. Thanks
Geethica when you are in love you want to see the person you love happy in every way. I was not fond of eating spicy food but the day I fell in love with my man who is a tremendous foody person unknowingly I also dipped into the spicy zone. I never loved the color BLUE, but now you ask me to choose a dress, wallpaper or any interior decor items. I dont know why I can only see blue. He loves blue and now I love it too. I can relate myself with your content so well.
So relatable, Samata. I realise my partner has raised the bar from dal roti to chowmein because I like it. It’s not only women who change but men also go through life changes.
I am glad you resonated with my story. Thanks
What a beautiful post, Geet. I believe we all have our own love language for our partner, one that only they understand 😀 It’s the small gestures that make relationships special. There are many loving habits of my partner, and a few irritating ones too but for me it’s not the habits that matter, it’s the person and how they make you feel.
I totally agree, Neha. You love the person and gradually you love their habits too. In trying times, it’s the person who cares for you keeping aside their most irritating habits. Thanks
A highly enjoyable and identifiable portrayal of the complexities of a relationship. Geethica, you are a poet of love through everyday gestures and habits, accepting that irritants live hand in hand with the endearments of love. The post challenges readers to look back at their relationships, evoking a feeling of belonging through common stories. Everyone can find something relatable!
Thank you, Neerja, That’s so sweet of you to tag me as a poet of love.
This comes from a very affectionate heart. Your man is lucky, I should say.
What irritates me most and yet is an admirable quality in my 3-decades partner is her frequent inquiry about certain grammatical nuances. Why doesn’t she understand that language is more than grammar? But i love the dedication to precision.
Hahah…3 decades is a strong path to a healthy relationship. I agree with your partner’s irritation about why a language has grammatical exceptions. But yes, it’s more than just the grammar.
Thanks a lot for commenting.
Completely agree with you Geethica. Every couple has their own love language. Living with partners habit is sometimes difficult 😉. But yes, helping each other, being there for each other is always beneficial.
So true, Neeta. Thanks.
Comendable, these little things help in balancing a relationship, not just for a couple but entire family too. These days we are habitual of spending time in isolation with our devices and do other things only for the sake of doing those.
I know. We need to do things for others without any expectation to get something in return. Thanks, Tanvi.
Such a structured and organized post. Everything you say resonates, and yes, there are a few things that I still have to work on even after 27 years of marriage.
Wow…27 years is cool. And yes, relationships are always a work in progress. We all are learning something and that’s what keeps us busy. Thanks, Marietta,
Your words reflects a positive perspective on the complexities of love in a relationship. It encourages us to reflect on our own relationships and consider the habits of partners that they both adore and find irritating. After all love requires understanding and accepting both the positive and challenging aspects of a partner.
Thanks, Romila.
Little gestures like the ones you have mentioned go long way! These tips are simple and can be executed easily!
Thanks Nilshree. I am happy you liked them.
Hahaha good question. I guess we have learnt to live with the irritating habits for 15 years now. So, it’s better not to mention them here just in case he reads this blog. But yeah love is a peculiar thing. You cannot live with it and you cannot live without it.
Well, partners are always eyeing each other’s thoughts and if we are bloggers, they ought to look out for our posts. Thanks, Cindy.