--- title: "Can you hate the person you love the most" url: https://thoughtsbygeethica.com/2024/01/can-you-hate-the-person-you-love-the-most/ date: 2024-01-31 modified: 2024-01-31 lang: en author: "Geethica" description: "The simple answer to the question - Can you hate the person you love the most is \"No, you can't\" Love is an emotion that happens on its own. You..." categories: - "Relationship" tags: - "hate the person" - "Love" image: https://thoughtsbygeethica.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Can-you-hate-the-person-you-love-the-most-1024x636.jpg word_count: 626 --- # Can you hate the person you love the most The simple answer to the question - Can you hate the person you love the most is "No, you can't" Love is an emotion that happens on its own. You never play hard to love someone, his respect for your dreams makes you fall in love with him again and again. But at the same time, life is not a bed of roses, you have to make it one. Circumstances test your patience and you often ask yourself - is love or hate filling your heart more now? ## The language of love Every couple has a language of love. Some like to express their love physically, others like to show it emotionally while a few like to just enjoy being around their loved ones. I am sharing my language of love for my partner, let's see if you resonate with any of these. ## Taking care of his belongings This doesn't mean spoiling his habits or spoon-feeding him. That way he's independent in most of his ways. It is just my way of arranging breakfast items for him before he makes it on his own or checking if his clothes are in their right places before he wears them. Over the years, I have seen him preparing things independently if I am not around and that's his way of expressing that he cares. ## Cook the food he loves ![https://thenightreader28.wordpress.com/](https://thoughtsbygeethica.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Can-you-hate-the-person-you-love-the-most-1-1024x636.jpg) In the early years of my marriage, when I started learning new recipes, someone asked me what was new in my cookbook. My simple answer was the dishes he likes. I would stand by my mom-in-law and watch her cook the delicious food which is now transferred to me. Paneer, biryani, kadhi and of course, arhar ki dal are a few common dishes at home. I shared before also that cooking someone's special recipes is my way of saying that I care. People may be busy in their world but eating their favourite food instantly brings happiness to their nerves and senses. When he orders my favourite food or visits my favourite cuisines that's his way of eating good food together and making delicious memories for my next blog post. ## Mark your presence in the same room We both are quiet and love our personal spaces. We don't believe that gadgets have eaten up our mutual conversation time. [Gadgets](https://thoughtsbygeethica.com/2018/02/whos-closer-heart-husband-smartphone/) have made it possible to sit together in a room and still be busy with your stuff. I like working on my laptop or reading a book while he loves to play or read on his mobile. Watching a movie or series together on TV or laptop is always a bonus. ## Reading and watching genres that he likes ![https://thenightreader28.wordpress.com/](https://thoughtsbygeethica.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Can-you-hate-the-person-you-love-the-most-1024x636.jpg) Miracles do happen and love makes it happen quite often. Spending close to 2 decades together, I have started taking an interest in historical monuments and knowing the story behind their existence as he likes. On the contrary, I have seen him taking glimpses of CID episodes I watch on OTT and other thrillers I love to watch. Habits make you fall in love with someone and at the same time irritate you to the extent that you just want to hate the person and walk out of the relationship. But stop for a moment, pause and ask yourself, [will you be happy without him](https://thoughtsbygeethica.com/2019/07/understand-truth-behind-amazing-relationship/)? If he doesn't irritate you, will you long for those soothing moments together? Check out an interesting research on the 2 strong emotions - love and hate [here](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2017.01940/full). Love is always in the air, it's just that you need to smell it over other fragrances. What are the most loving and irritating habits of your partner that you simply adore? "This post is a part of Remembering Love Blog Hop hosted by [Manali Desai](https://arusticmind88.wordpress.com/) and [Sukaina Majeed](https://thenightreader28.wordpress.com/)"