4 habits that prove kindness runs in your blood
Kindness runs in your blood and that’s why it is an emotion you are proud of. Some people like to flaunt it while others want to be quiet about it. Well, I am not going to talk about how kindness heals you or makes you feel better but about the reason why kindness reflects in you. Let’s start with 4 habits that prove it runs in our blood.
Affection on the plate
Does it often happen that you sit at a dinner table but instead of filling your plate, you start serving others first? It happens to me all the time. I like hot food and that’s why I come to the table first little realizing that by the time food comes to my plate, it will be cold. The reason is that unknowingly I start serving people around me.
I don’t know exactly when did I have this habit but after I started cooking I know that I am the one serving all and eating in the end. Recently, I was out with my brother and new bhabhi when I was again busy asking others their preferences and that’s when she laughed and said “arre didi, aap apna paroso, main le lungi”
I laughed along thinking this quality is not man-made but runs in my blood. Can’t help but flaunt it for sure!
Are you kind when you argue?
Like many books and podcasts, I may go through to be quiet and avoid an argument, some or the other reason triggers me. And when there are people all over the place, you ought to land in a discussion then a difference of opinion and finally an argument. But what’s interesting to know is that now I stop quite early from where it’s still manageable. Why?
Because #The KindnessGene in me stops me at the right time reminding me that you look the ugliest when you quarrel. Most importantly, when you shout, your brain stops working and you start saying unnecessary things that may be baseless but hurtful to the other person. Soon, I realize that it’s better to be quiet and not hurt them further.
Your attitude reflects your habit
Your habits are the first signs proving kindness runs in your blood. From the first time, I went on a school trip to Manali, I had the habit of buying gifts for all my family members. Though I was warned of wasting money instead which I could buy stuff for myself. But that didn’t come out of me.
After becoming a mother, we as parents used to go out for coffee or a movie leaving kids with grandparents. At that time also, I would buy something as little as a pen as a token of appreciation for my kids.
As much as they would feel good, I would also feel content looking at their smiling faces. I often ask myself why I do this. My subconscious always replies that my chemical composition is made that way and I should be proud to flaunt #TheKindnessGene
Donating for a cause
We grow up listening to the good behind donating and helping the needy. Many times a cause is behind our good deeds. But I find myself donating without any particular reason and not to NGOs but to people I know at home and around me who are in need.
Usually, I don’t wait for clothes to fade or tear off before donating but because I buy 2 new sets for myself. I feel immense pleasure to gift helpful things to people who actually need them.
Also read: Kindness where I along with my kids have done something very small but felt very happy.
Nothing comes for free
If someone gifts me something, I feel the urge to gift them back as soon as possible in some way. Similarly, if I go to buy something and the shopkeeper says I can pay later because he knows me, I would never take that stuff. #TheKindnessGene from inside would tell me to pay for the thing I own.
This also works with friends who have turned into entrepreneurs and would send their stuff as free promotions. But I would die if I don’t pay them or gift them in exchange.
Let’s understand how kindness runs in your blood
Though I am aware that these habits in me are formed because of some reason but I want to know what exactly it is and why?
On researching a bit about #ThekindnessGene, I found that about 30% – 60% of kindness is genetically determined and the rest comes from life experiences. Out of the different genes associated with kindness, one of these genes is related to the oxytocin receptor. That’s also called the bonding hormone.
Now, you know that you are kind because your parents are kind and their parents must have been kind too. When you question kindness in you, the answer is simple kindness runs in your blood.
I have multiple examples to show that I have genetically taken kindness from my ancestors:
- My father is the calmest person I have seen on earth, He would always avoid an argument and would say let it be.
- He gives needful things to people before they ask for them.
- It doesn’t affect him if some work is not done according to him. He would just say ‘doesn’t matter. Jo nahin mila uske baare mein zyada mat socho. Chod do’
- Mom cooks food and serves everyone before she eats herself.
- She would buy everything for everyone be it from their wishlist or from her own will.
- My grandma used to leave a mug full of water after taking bath just in case anybody needs water in case of emergency.
- She used to cook favourite dishes for all and never ever have I heard from her that one particular dish is only for her. Whatever was made was always for all.
Wow! While writing them down I could relate to so many. I could feel the warmth in all of the above and their existence in me. There are many more unknown genetical habits that I may see in the coming times.
Until then, I am proud to flaunt #TheKindnessGene in me. Let’s see how are you genetically connected to your parents.
You can read what others have to say about #TheKindnessGene here