Do you think preaching from elders helps to be valuable?
Family is the first school of values. Joint setup or a nuclear setup, a child gets his first lesson of life from home. Elders teach us all and in the first few years of our life, we look up to them only. It is only once we start going out to school and then to many different places that other thoughts add to our knowledge. Whatever we look and hear even once leaves an impression on our mind and becomes a part of psychological imprint. Sometimes, in life, we use it as a habit knowingly or unknowingly. Do you think preaching from elders helps to be valuable?
Deep-rooted valuable preachings
In the early years of childhood, our roots are strong enough to conflict any new school of thought when we move out. That’s why we question our elders about the reason behind following a ritual or practice. They tell us the story behind practising a particular habit which they have learnt from their elders and so on the legacy is running. We come to know so much about our rich cultural heritage through stories. Remember, bedtime stories that usually have a moral in the end just to set an example of what is wrong and right?
Even parenting becomes easier
All the learnings come to the rescue as soon as you become a parent. Don’t you agree? I swear by what I say. Before motherhood, I didn’t even remember listening to any of the preachings from elders. As soon as my life changed for a whole new reason, I started listening to my mom in law and mom. I tried all ancient methods to face daily parenting challenges and they actually helped!
The most important things I learnt so far
Life is a learning process and we all keep adding to our knowledge bank every now and then. I have discussed this before also that each and every family member inspires your behaviour. Some of the best habits added to me are
- Learn to resist anger. Things will get back to normal today or tomorrow but scars left on others by your anger may take a longer time to fade away. That leaves you guilty.
- Kids do trouble their mothers a lot and the irritation shows on mom’s face for hours or maybe a day. But never scold your child in front of others. Children feel insulted and this leaves a negative impression on their minds without even understanding your real purpose behind.
- If you are living with your extended family then let them also indulge and help you in parenting. Many times, you as a mother lose patience so easily while your elders smile and tackle the situation. Patience also comes with time.
- Some habits become a part of your daily life and you are completely unaware of it. My grandma always used to say never say ‘I am going’ when you step out. Instead, say ‘I am coming’. Till date, I say, ‘Aati hoon’ when I go out.
- Never go out on an empty stomach. I swear I will never because I learned my hard lesson during my college days due to moving out on an empty stomach. A long story to narrate here. Maybe in some other post.
Listen to all
It is an old practice to listen to all and practice what suits you. It holds practical in today’s life. When every generation goes through little lifestyle changes then being diplomatic is the need of the hour. At least, listening is increasing your knowledge and gives you the choice to try new ideas.
So tell me friends, do you remember any of the learning passed on to you from your elders that helped you in any way?
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