If I could receive one gift it would be the art to ditch anger
Every human is made of various emotions and there is a little bit of everything. You are happy, sad, laughing, crying, angry etc. What irritates me the most is anger. That one emotion which I fail most of the times, I try to overpower it. Each time I fail, I come back with double the power to beat anger. I get angry on the fact that I become weak in front of it and want to delete it from my behaviour forever. If I could receive one gift from God, it would be the art to ditch anger.
Anger is a parasite
Have you realised how many times you practise anger management but still, the success rate is 50% only. It is solely because we decide to be calm and don’t overreact but depending upon the situation, we get angry and all planning fails. It’s important to think beyond anger and study what makes us angry? There is only one reason and that is when we expect something from others or desire to have something.
Factors leading to anger
When we want something, say chocolate, if we get then we are happy otherwise we get angry. Our desire to get things, make us happy and sad. It is often difficult to control and let it go if we don’t get our things done the right way. This is where anger seeds pop up and we fail in front of it.
Secondly, where I get weak is when I expect a certain kind of behaviour from someone. Be it kids or spouse or anybody who matters to me. When they don’t behave the way I want them to be, I get furious and that is when I am the angriest. We make the worst decisions when we are angry and behave the most unlikely way that we repent later.
The way to overcome this attitude is to accept others as they are and be calm if you don’t like their way. But do we ever succeed? At least, I don’t. In fact, I am able to ditch my desire and take things as they come my way. I don’t get angry anymore if I don’t get things for myself. So this small bit is resolved in my life leaving the bigger lion to capture.
Simple things in life get difficult to handle. Like, every night when I have to prepare for the next day, I tell kids to come to bed. They listen and get busy with their own work. I feel irritated because I expect them to come to bed on time. They do but with their own pace. Until then, I shout at them which I don’t want to but I do. Every day I decide I will not get angry at them and be quiet. Believe me, I have done so and they come to bed quietly wondering why mom is not calling us. Things are done peacefully. I tell myself, see, I can be like this at all times.
2 out of 7 days are quiet. But I will not stop practising and one day all 7 days would be calmer. If I could receive a gift from Him, it would be the art to ditch anger.
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