Tips to achieve relationship goals by Kapila

Sometimes, the more you read about a particular topic, you start enjoying it and want to know more. A similar is happening with this topic too. Today, the guest on my blog is a new friend I made at a book launch. And we got along so well. So let’s get into a chat with her and know the experience of achieving relationship goals by Kapila.

Introduce yourself in a few lines. What is your relationship status?

My Name is Kapila. I am a Software engineer by qualification. Currently, I am a Network security professional. My hobbies include dancing, cooking, reading and writing. I have been married for more than 8 years now.

Do you have kids?

I have 2 Daughters. Gaurika is going to be 5 years old in November. Tanvika turned 1 in September.

There’s always a change in the definition of love at every stage of life. What change did you feel after your kid/kids was/were born?

Quite literally I have seen the changes at every stage of life. Ours is a love marriage. We were batchmates in college. So from friends to lovers to couple to parents, we have grown up together in the past 12 years of knowing each other.

Do you live in a joint family? If yes, do they help in building a strong relationship between the two of you? If not, do you miss their presence?

We are staying in Noida. His parents stay in Kolkata and mine in Delhi.

We as such stay in a nuclear family but my parents are close enough to keep visiting us. So, I would say we are enjoying the benefits of the joint family as well. Yes, I do miss my in-laws not coming to stay with us. Since I am a Punjabi and he is a Bengali, I think my girls are missing out on learning the Bengali culture and traditions.

Kids make their parent’s bond stronger. But at times, parents argue because of them only because their teachings differ. What is your safe mantra in such a situation? Explain with an example if possible.

Thankfully we haven’t had many arguments. However, I would be completely lying if I would say we dint have any.

Mostly if we disagree on something, we discuss the situation after the kids have slept.

Respect for your partner is the most important aspect of a successful relationship. Still, at some point in an argument, your ego comes in between and things become worse. How do you tackle such a situation and make your life peaceful once again?

For us whenever we have got into a situation where we got into the no-talking-to-each-other zone, we stay in that zone for a few minutes and go away from each other’s sight. After a few minutes, we come back to our usual self. Somehow, knowing each other as friends first has helped us tackle tricky situations better. He knows why I react in a way and I know how to get him talking.

Everyone loves surprises. There’s always an excitement involved. But when you are together for over a decade, you know him/her inside out. How do you still manage to surprise your partner?

Surprises are important to keep that spark alive and that is probably what is special about our relationship.

Surprising him or rather making him happy is easy. Cook some of his favourite dishes and he is happy.

From your experience of married life with kids, please share some motivating tips to make your relationship successful.  What is your ultimate goal in a relationship?

I think the motivating factor of our relationship is the trust we have in each other. No matter what we are together when it comes to making decisions related to family and family matters.

Our goal in life is to remain in love always and stay together as a family!!

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Thank you, Kapila. It was sweet to know you better and your mantra for a successful relationship. 

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