Tips to achieve relationship goals by Zainab Raazi
Hey friends and welcome back to the relationship series on my blog. I know you have been waiting to see who is the next guest on my blog to share the tips on this trending topic. Today, on my blog I have invited one of my best and dearest friend from the blogging world- Zainab. Let’s get in to the chat and see what’s her side of the story?
Introduce yourself in
a few lines. What is your relationship status?
Hi, guys. I’m Zainab or Z and I blog at SlimExpectations.Com.
I’m a mama to twin boys and married.
Do you have kids?
Guess, the above line answered this question too
There’s always a change in the definition of love at every stage of life. What change did you feel after your kid/kids was/were born?
I think, things change in two folds. One is of course Positive. Meaning, it strengthens the bond between you and your man.
Yes, it’s a mom’s duty to do all she does. But, sadly it is taken for granted and it’s not easy to get breaks.
The only negative thing, I feel what happens to most mom’s is that their efforts are not recognized.
Do you live in a joint family? If yes, do they help in building
a strong relationship between the two of you? If no, do you miss their presence?
Yes, I live in a joint family. And, yes staying with in-laws always is a bonus.
When my twins were babies, my mother in law would often sleep with them, bathe them. That would mean more time with me and him.
Luckily, every Sunday she cooks some yum items and, I get to spend some kitchen free time as well.
Kids make their parent’s bond stronger. But at times, parents argue because of them only because their teachings differ. What is your safe mantra in such a situation? Explain with an example if possible.
I wish I knew the answer. I think, the only safe mantra is to “ keep calm”
Moms and dads argue and will continue to argue.
Even with me, most of the time my husband and I argue on such things.
Bunking school, for example, is a big no from me. But, then the kids will go to their dad and make him agree.
Respect for your partner is the most important aspect of a successful relationship. Still, at some point in an argument, your ego comes in between and things become worse. How do you tackle such a situation and make your life peaceful once again?
Sadly, the only and only solution is to break the ego. Thankfully, my husband is a broad minded guy, and if he feels something is wrong- he does try to make amends.
But, yes one of us needs to initiate and bury the hatchet, cos
Everyone loves surprises. There’s always an excitement involved. But when you are together for over a decade, you know him/her inside out. How do you still manage to surprise your partner?
I managed to throw him a surprise birthday party two years back. He’s really introverted and I was super scared at what the outcome could be.
I joined hands with my in laws and we arranged a beautiful party on the terrace.
It was a good evening.
As he is a closed person, I think it was a good fun surprise,
I love surprises and hope he give me a pleasant one soon 😉
From your experience of married life with kids, please share some motivating tips to make your relationship successful? What is your ultimate goal in a relationship?
Although, I think I’m no relationship guru but summing up a few things that I have learnt from my marriage.
- When he’s angry calm down. Argument will just worsen the situation. Later on, you can “politely” point his mistake (if any)
- Phone Issues. I think this is one of my main issues in life. Men and women are addicted to their smart phones and tend to ignore each other. The only solution I have been successful is to create a “no phone zone” every day for 30 minutes.
- I read somewhere, Never go to sleep angry. I guess this is not right. I feel if you are angry, then “sleep over it”
To continue to empower each other and keep the trust.
That was really close Zainab. I guess every mother of two would relate to your answers. Thank you very much,dear.
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