Tips to achieve relationship goals by Roma Gupta Sinha

Welcome back, friends. I am happy to share my happiness while I interview different people on my blog. Today, I am delighted to interview a very dear friend of mine Roma. I became friends with her during A to Z Challenge 2017 where I found her emotions just like me but with much depth. Her style of writing has a different aura.

Q1. Introduce yourself in a few lines. What is your relationship status?

Hey Geethica and the precious readers. I am Roma, I run a Communication Skills Academy for six to sixty-year-olds where I aid them to bridge a gap between their intellect and expression as well am an ardent blogger and author of three books of three different genres.
My relationship status is happily married ever after( twelve years as of now)

I can proudly term marrying this guy as the wisest decision of my life so far.

Q2. Do you have kids?

Yes, I have a son and my sunshine is nine years old now. How I wish to hold time and make him stay in my arms forever.

Q3. There’s always a change in the definition of love at every stage of life. What change did you feel after your kid/kids was/were born?

Motherhood knocked at my door in softest steps but after that took my life for a toss. My spouse whom I used to pamper a lot suddenly experienced a paradigm shift in my attention which obviously was for the baby in whatever time I was left out of my full-time job. I took a while to get into the balancing act and I deliberately worked back around our loving relationship. I value it a lot and believe in investing in it because what you give is what comes around. The definition of pure love remained the same for me but probably as a parent the ways and means to express love became less eloquent.

Q4. Do you live in a joint family? If yes, do they help in building a strong relationship between the two of you? If no, do you miss their presence?

No, mine is a nuclear family, just the three of us but we are very closely knit with our extended families and spend a lot of time together on all important festivals and frequent holidays with everyone. I lost my mom before my child was born and this is one tie I miss the most and really wanted my kid to experience. Nani’s love is rare and special and I would have really loved to witness my mom and kiddo’s unique bonding. Since I was extremely ambitious on the onset of my career, my mom always told me that she will rear my child and I can fly high to fulfil my dreams. She also made me promise that I will never give up my job and financial independence but as Destiny snatched her away from me many strands of my life entwined but I am rearing my child exactly like she taught me.

Q5. Kids make their parent’s bond stronger. But at times, parents argue because of them only because their teachings differ. What is your safe mantra in such a situation? Explain with an example if possible.

Kids are smart beings and if one parent gets angry they comfortably take solace in the other one’s arms trying to defend themselves and we accept it or not there are few times where we both might have different opinions on the same situation. Over the years we have quietly defined our boundaries. For example, if I am accountable for kiddo’s studies, the husband won’t interfere with the routine. I can seek help from him in case I am unwell etc. but other than that we respect each other’s decisions and don’t try to cut each other in front of the little one, we sort it out later if the need be.

Q6. Respect for your partner is the most important aspect of a successful relationship. Still, at some point in an argument, your ego comes in between and things become worse. How do you tackle such a situation and make your life peaceful once again?

We are best friends of decades my dear and have shunned our egos much before we even tied not for we realised this small three letter word can smash lovely relationships. But if sometimes the spouse’s ego shoots up I work with reverse psychology and appease it all the more deliberately until he takes notice of my effort and would return the favour. I smile and maintain silence when I don’t like the way a particular discussion is steering and have often seen him doing the same. This is our mantra. Respect and love each other forever eternally unconditionally.

Q7. Everyone loves surprises. There’s always an excitement involved. But when you are together for over a decade, you know him/her inside out. How do you still manage to surprise your partner?  

Weaving surprises for him is my biggest passion. That’s how I keep the spice quotient of our relationship high. I sometimes write some beautiful love couplets for him and send it to him when he is away. He loves the poetry or prose I compose for him and is very possessive about them. He doesn’t like them to be shared on my blog or social media handles. Similarly, to whichever corner of the world he travels, he always gets a lovely priceless gift for me and I value and cherish this gesture a lot. Also, though he travels twenty days a month we stay connected 24X7 and bask in the glory of each other’s love along with parenting our little precious with equal love.

Q8. From your experience of married life with kids, please share some motivating tips to make your relationship successful? What is your ultimate goal in a relationship?

Like I have said before, I have learnt it the hard way my dears that to make any relationship successful, you have to invest your warmth, love, extreme care for that person and your pure emotions in it to get the same in reciprocation and you have to keep working on it. The moment you take it for granted and cross the boundaries the relationship begins to fall apart. Other than a mother’s love for her child all other relationships of this world are bi-directional. If they mean the world to you, invest love in them and get the same back in abundance. You get back what you give out to the universe. I have followed this principle unilaterally for several years now and trust me it works.

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Thank you Roma for pouring out your heart so selflessly on my blog. These tips are really so helpful for every parent.

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