Tips to achieve relationship goals by Rachael Pace
Hello friends, welcome to a whole new series on my blog. Here, I am inviting many experienced and successful bloggers to share their insights on maintaining healthy relationships. So without delaying a minute, I introduce the first guest on my blog today- Rachael Pace
Please introduce yourself in a few lines.
I am a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. I have helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. I am a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.
There’s always a change in bonding at every stage of life. What changes do couples feel after kids are born?
Becoming new parents is an exciting new chapter in your happy marriage. It can also be an exhausting one, which makes it important for you and your spouse to make (and stick to!) a plan for maintaining that spark in your relationship post child birth.
Once your baby arrives it’s normal for things to change a little. In fact, as new parents, it’s natural for your emotional and physical energy to go toward your new bundle of joy, but don’t forget about your marriage.
Whether it’s exhaustion from taking care of the baby all day or perhaps not feeling so good with your post-baby body, some couples tend to let romance and togetherness fall to the side. Don’t let your healthy marriage fall to the wayside in favour of diapers and doo-doo.
Does a babysitter
add that spark to the married life?
It’s important for couples to work on their marriage after having a baby. Take time for one another regularly where you can interact as lovers instead of just parents. For some, this means getting a babysitter for the evening.
We know, we know. It’s tough to part from your little one so soon after welcoming them into your family. But, this is important.
Remember that the length of your date is entirely up to you. If you can’t bear the thought of being away from your little one for an entire evening, why not go out with your spouse for a coffee date or a walk around the neighborhood together while your sitter comes over?
This way you will still get an hour or so to connect with your spouse without missing out on time with your baby.
Kids make parents bond much stronger. But, at times, there are arguments between parents because of kids only.
What is your safe mantra in such a situation?
Date nights are so important for married couples, especially new parents. Scheduling weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly date night is great for new parents since it gives them the opportunity to reconnect as romantic partners instead of just mom and dad.
Your date night together should be a fun outing that you both enjoy doing, such as having a picnic, going to a concert/play/show, taking up a new hobby together, going to a movie, or having a romantic dinner out.
Having a regular date night will help you and your spouse bring back the romantic chemistry. You’ll also have some much-needed fun with each other while taking a break from your daily routine.
Respect for your partner is the most important aspect of a successful relationship. Still, at some point of argument, our ego comes in between things become worse.
How to tackle such situation and make life peaceful once again?
Having a new baby in the house is exciting and joyful, but it can also be exhausting and difficult for maintaining a happy marriage.
If one of you has been working all day and the other has been taking care of the child, you may both feel overwhelmed and tired by the end of the day. Don’t let that stop you from communicating with your sweetheart.
Take 30 minutes every day and devote it entirely to talking with your spouse. Don’t use your phone, have the TV on, or claim you are multitasking by surfing the internet while “listening” to your spouse talk.
Give your partner your undivided attention and discuss your days, laugh together, share stories, and focus on connecting.
Everyone loves surprises. There’s always an excitement involved. When the couple is together for over a decade, they know each other inside out. Still, how do they manage to surprise?
You and your spouse may whole to spoiling your children, but don’t forget to treat each other every now and then as well! Showing up with flowers, a little gift, giving a head massage, or planning a fun outing for just the two of you is a great way to remind your spouse that they are still the one you’d most want to spoil and spend time with.
Please share some tips that motivate couples to achieve relationship goals.
Sometimes it’s the littlest things that become the most important parts of your day. Like romance! There are plenty of ways you can show your partner a little bit of healthy marriage romances every single day, such as:
- Leave a sticky love-note on the mirror before work
- Be happy and energetic
- Send sweet texts or emails relating things you love about your spouse
- Hold hands
These small gestures can make a huge impact on your relationship with your spouse, so do them regularly.
Thank you, Rachael, for an insightful interview on my blog today. I hope my readers would be benefited from your advice.
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