His togetherness makes me wise
When we are together with our partner for a long time, it feels like we have literally grown together. In this time span, we see many shades of our partner. And they also become aware of our reactions to different situations. We become wise enough to understand their feelings in a particular situation. His togetherness has made me wise too in many ways. When love takes its deepest turn, everything seems to be perfect but did you pause for a minute and thank God? Did you tell Him how blessed you feel to have your partner in your life? If not, then this is the right time to do so.
How wise are we
- Talk when it’s actually needed, no unnecessary talks. This doesn’t mean that you are not free to talk to him. But you need to see when is the right time to present your situation. Many times we talk about wrong things at the wrong time. And this further leads to disagreements and arguments. There are a lot of things which we know that they might not like to listen at that particular time. The same happens with us too. That’s human nature.
- When you can sense that a particular discussion is turning foul, stop at once. There is no use of making up later when you could have avoided that situation in the first place.
- Watch for the real cause that heated the discussion. Is it really worth it? Is it bigger than the love for him? For many things, we regret later. So it’s better to avoid such situations and be wise.
- We don’t like to listen to our disabilities from them. But when they do, we improve. We should be thankful to God to let us know this way so that we avoid repeating it.
Let go of ego is not that difficult
- In many situations, you may be correct but being quiet actually helps. You can’t forcefully make him listen. Instead, wait for sometime and talk again. It will be definitely in your favour.
- There should not be any ego between partners. Yes, you can initiate it. Ask yourself, when he’s rude to you, do you feel good? Don’t you want that time to just vanish and let the things be back to normal? Just for some issue, we fight and things turn sour.
We may ask ourselves, why do I have to be the first one? But when you bow down, he also melts. This is a proven fact. Love is much stronger than the temporary disagreements.
When you ask yourself, for whom should I bow down? Close your eyes and you will get an answer. You let go of your ego, not for any person but God. He has given this beautiful life and a strong and faithful partner to make this life more loving. Then why is there ego? Can’t we bow down for our God? Many times it is not easy to accept the fact and we all fall prey to the situation. But when tackled wisely, we are the ones to be benefitted.
For many problems, God answers late but he answers. He just tests how wise have we grown?
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Very important points discussed, ego and silence these play very vital role in every relation and can create misunderstanding.
Very helpful tips Geethica, stretching a point at wrong time definitely raises unnecessary discomfort in relationships.
Such a lovely post dear… To let go of one’s ego is the most crucial step for a successful relationship
So true. Thank you
Agree with all the points you have specified. Letting go of our ego is tough, but its best way to avoid confrontations.
Many times we fail to value our life partner and start taking him for granted. It is important to value our partner and let go of our ego. It is not worth fighting over petty issues.
It’s indeed hard to take the first step to resolve a fight. But, yes when we bow down he does melt.
We learn everyday, don’t we!
That’s so true. Thank you dear
Very helpful pointers, Geethica! I agree with you that speaking becomes less as we grow in opur relationship and understanding becomes more. Wonderful post.
Life teaches us so many lessons. Thank you Vasantha.
Loved reading your relationship chemistry! Actually, it depends person to person. Like I am an extrovert and sometimes dominating too. Day by day we are becoming Tom & Jerry, we fight but we cant stay without each other.
That’s so cute Sayeri. Thanks a lot
They say, there’s no perfect relationship. All relationships are work. If you put in the work, you’ll reap the rewards. So yes, we need to have patience, let go of our ego, learn from experience/mistakes and make our relationship more satisfying and enriching!
Makes so much sense Geetica. I cant agree any less that one needs to watch the real cause of the heated, and try to see if it is really worth it. Sometimes as we calm down, issues are resolved better.
Just like you your write up is so sweet. Co-operative and understanding partners indeed makes the journey a little more comfortable.
Thanks Amrita. That’s so sweet of you to say so. I really appreciate your words