When parents fight in front of kids
Children look up to their parents as role models. You like it or not, every habit of yours can be seen in your child. Be it good or bad. Children are also affected by the environment at home. What they feel at home makes a mark in their brain. It is essential to give a calm and loving environment to your kids. When parents fight over some issues in front of their kids, children are adversely affected in the following ways:
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- Children tend to disrespect either both parents or any one of them. When one of the parents uses foul language for another partner in front of their kids, the children feel that they also have to disrespect that parent.
- They adapt to this unfortunate environment, they also start talking in the same language. And behave in the same manner with siblings or their friends outside.
- They are mentally affected. They feel that there is always shouting at home. They seek peace outside the home. They want to be away from home as much as possible.
- They feel this is the definition of love. The bitterness is instilled in them since childhood. When some stranger talks to them politely they feel attracted to them.
- They feel there is no bonding among the family members. Everyone seems to be stranger for kids. This leads to depressed lifestyles. They lack confidence in their character.
We should find ways to avoid fighting in front of kids. Some of the ways can be:
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- Don’t react immediately. I know it is not easy but we are parents and we have to learn to be patient.
- Many times we say wrong things and react without understanding the whole situation. Stop right there, think about it and talk after some time to resolve the issue.
- Keep the argument one to one only. When we drag families or friends, it comes to ego. And then there’s no control on what we speak.
- Control yourself and leave the area. You can always argue in another room where kids are not present.
- Disagreements are always there between two people and it is natural. We should always accept the fact that another person may have a different point of view on the same issue.
- Keep your tone low. High volumes always lead to ugly results.
Every couple has a different way to tackle this issue and I am sure every parent is correct in their own form.
Linking this post with Amrita and Deepa for Monday Mommy Moments
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Great blog update that every parent can read. It gives a lot of insight on things that we can do to make sure our kids don’t get affected due to tensions running in family.
That’s true Nameesh. Thank you
I am always interested to know how people manage conflict .Its never easy and here you have given great food for thought .#MondayMommyMoments.
Thank you Amrita
Parents can have healthy arguments or disagreements without raising their voice and that shows kids its acceptable to voice their opinion however real fights should be when kids not around. Great write up
Thank you dear. It’s just how we tackle the situation and learn not to repeat bad behaviour
Fighting, yelling, screaming, or physically hurting, all are bad for kids. They should not see their parents doing any of these. It affects them negatively. Thanks for writing for #MMM 🙂
Thank you Deepa
Totally agree parents should be Extra careful and go for healthy discussion instead of argument.
That’s true. Thanks
This is a pertinent topic in parenting. Disagreements are inevitable between parents and it is very important to stay aware how we are dealing with them, keeping in mind the effects of arguments or fighting can have on the children. Good points, Geethica.
Thank you very much.
My parents fought with each other when I was growing up. I wish that they had read these suggestions. They are very helpful in helping to maintain a peaceful household.
Thank You Alice. Every couple have their own reasons to fight. I hope they just realise who’s watching them.
So many fresh relevant points here… Especially when it comes to keeping it one-to-one instead of bringing an avalanche of other opinions into it.
Thanks Roshan. Life is a big teacher.
this is such an important parenting issue that need to be deal with patience and calmness. you had covered all points so wonderfully. it is great to get connected with you #mondaymommymoments. looking forward reading more from you.
Thanks Surbhi. #MMM has brought so many of us together.
I agree with all the points. The child is not only mentally scarred but also, can start talking rudely to either of the parent.
Thanks Zainab.
Parents’ behavior is very critical for kids’ mental state. Kids need a happy atmosphere at home.
Yes, parents also grow as children grow and learn many things together. Thanks Hiral