Fading guilt
Writing your deepest guilt on your blog is not easy. I was a little sceptical about writing. This topic required to wake up so many emotions that were closed in a corner of my heart. There were so many sudden changes in my lifestyle as I became a mother. And with each passing phase, my little daughter taught me a lesson and made me a better person in life. This is how my guilt started fading and I realised that those were the moments most cherished.
My parenting journey all over again:
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Be more patient
I was totally shaken up when I could not sleep because of my daughter’s sleeping patterns. I used to question myself is this what God gifts you with the baby? And then one day, I got an answer from my God- ” Have patience my child, when other difficult times have gone, this shall also pass soon.” I started to change my sleeping patterns accordingly.
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Accept the fact that kids love to cling to their moms
I used to get irritated that my kid is not leaving me alone. I am not able to have a little free time for myself. Then later in life, I got to know that during initial years of childhood, kids see their moms and themselves as one. After all, they have come from inside you. Being inside for 9 months; same blood and same breath. They need some time to be on their own.
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Stopped comparing myself to others
I was married early in life and naturally had kids also. At that time, my fellow people were either studying or establishing their careers. I used to feel depressed and often used to ask God: Have I come on earth only to marry and have kids? Don’t I have any other purpose in life to breathe? But I have got all my answers from God. I am writing today and am financially free. My kids are grown up and my family is well-taken care by me along with my writing career. Today, when I sleep at night, I feel peaceful and thankful to God. I have understood that whatever happens, happens with time and when it is good for you.
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Kids do change your lifestyle
When I was unmarried I had a different lifestyle. So naturally, before kids also, I had a different pattern of living. When every person in life brings changes, whether he/she comes or goes, then it should be fast accepting that kids will also alter your daily habits. But this wisdom was taught to me by my daughter only.
I delivered my daughter when I was much younger. Gradually, we both are growing and are maturing every day. She has made me learn so many life lessons and prepared me to raise up my second child more maturely. She has proved the saying that why children are considered to be true forms of God.
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Such a lovely post. I see happiness on your face when you’re in every picture you post with your daughter. P.S. It’s always the best part of working from home. I was somewhat like that, “go married and moved from a city to not that big city with no friends or relatives.” I continued to ask myself what went wrong when I left a job for a leading US Website as a process trainer. But it made me more independent gradually to learn new things, stay alone, start my own blog and more. Hats off who inspires us and teaches us every life value.
That’s so true. There’s always someone who inspires us and gives us the strength to perform better. Thank you.
Wonderful post.. Patience is the key of motherhood. .#jamss2018 #OpenNTalk
Thank you Snigdha
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O yes, this is an ongoing experience. Thank you Arvind.
Your post was heartfelt, and anything heartfelt is beautiful! 🙂
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I know It must be very difficult for you people!! Being a mom is not easy!! Hats off to you guys.. Love from #BloggerBabes #OpenNTalk
Thank you dear
That is so true. Can relate to every word you said.
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Thanks Anami
same story for me also…#BloggerBabes #OpeNTalk
The story of yours is similar to mine…married early and we grew together…now also growing together. I enjoyed each moment of my motherhood and still cherish the days spent together. Lovely post Geethica.
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That’s so sweet. Thank you Ila.
These were my questions too!! I didnt sleep for the first 3 months of my motherhood journey. When I became a mother my friends were enjoying their bachelor life. Still if you sit and think about your journey as a mother, you will feel blessed, it is an amazing journey. Some of my friends, dont want to take a baby because they dont want to take responsibility. I feel pity for them because they dont know ever the heavenly feeling of motherhood.
This is a common situation these days. But I guess everyone had a different perspective of life. Thanks dear
I can relate to this. As young mothers we all must have experienced these feelings and felt irritated at that time and guilty later. But guess, that’s normal and part of the parenting process 🙂
Learning at every step. Thanks Shilpa
heart touching beautiful lines by mother
Thank you
Such a beautiful post. I see the happiness on your face when you are with your daughter in every picture you post. P.S. Never stop writing, it’s the best part of working from home. I’ve been through somewhat similar, “got married and shifted from a city to not so big city with no friends or relatives around”. I kept asking myself what went wrong that I left a job as a Process Trainer for a leading US Website. But than it gradually made me more independent to learn new things, stay alone, start my own blog and many more things. Hats off to womanhood and to our father who raise us and teach us every value in life 🙂
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So true Varsha. Every experience teaches us and makes us strong. Thanks a lot
All moms go through these phased of change. Sometimes they aren’t easy to accept. We do learn a lot on the way though and the journey is worth every effort. #OpenNTalk #BloggerBabes
So true Varsha. Thanks a lot
Post partum depression is something you might want to read about. Closely associated with motherhood
Yes, I guess it happens with every mom post delivery at some time. Thank you.
Great blog and post by the way. You have a new follower 🙂
That’s great! Thanks
I agree!! Comparing makes things even more worse
Seriously. Thanks for commenting😆
Totally agree with your point that every child is different and unique and children should not be compared with each other
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Yes comparisons only lead to depression. Thanks Menaka
Such a heart felt post.Learning to be more patient everyday.
Yes, parenting is learning at every step. Thanks for commenting dear.
Be pateient is the one I love to redo in my parenting journey. Great pointers in your post.
i so resonate with this – feeling guilt at every step is something i would want to change about my style too!
Every mother has a little guilt to her side but that fades away with time. Thank you for commenting Prisha.
Love reading your posts dear! Every child is different and parents need different set of skills and emotions to deal with their kids
That true. Thank you for commenting.
You are absolutely right. Motherhood is indeed very challenging. You do your best still get the feeling that you are going wrong somewhere. But it’s very important that you let the guilts fade away. Could relate to every word of yours.
Thank you Vidhi
I loved this post Geethica as I can relate to so many things in your post. I also got married early and had kids early. It was like reading my own story. But realised later that everything happens for good. Thanks for linking up with #MMM 🙂
Thank you so much Deepa. I feel so blessed that my writing gets many of us much closer😊
Loved it Geethica, Patience YES YES & a BIG YES. I agree and my best favourite is DON’T Compare yourself with other moms. How well you have articulated the entire journey of motherhood in these few points. More power to you babe.
Thank you my love. I am so encouraged by your comment. Thanks once again😀
Hi5 Momma!!! Even I want to be more calm n patient
Thanks Anubhuti. Well, to have patience one needs constant learning life long.
Avoid comparising oneself is very important. Every mom has her own parenting style. One needs to understand
That’s correct Aesha. Thanks for commenting
The first kids are special…they suffer our parenting blunders and savour our parenting successes. LOvely post.
Thank you very much. You are correct that first child suffer our blunders😁
I loved reading and lots of love to J. every child is unique and so is Every Parent. After doing everything still something is left and I think its fine. Loved reading your post.
Thank you Jiya.
This post is so real and you have written from heart. I don’t know you as a person but after reading this i felt that i know you. Keep writing more posts like these dear
Thank you Megha. That’s so kind of you to say. We will be friends soon😀
I guess we all want to be more patient! But as moms it gets a little hard to always wear the patience cap!
That’s true Zainab. A mom can understand the feelings of another mom😂
Such relatable post. I agree accepting the fact that kids love to cling to their mums does brings a little peace to us. Thank you for sharing this .
Thank you Kavita
A very beautiful name to your post .All moms suffer guilt .Whatever they do it always seems to be too less .Fading of guilt is an apt description. Great post.Thank you for writing with us for #MondayMommyMoments
Thank you very much Amrita. This post took more than the usual time to complete. Maybe because I had to go 9 years back in my life and feel those emotional moments all over again.